When Narcissists go on the attack, it’s not because someone has done something to them, it’s because someone has told them “No”. If you refuse to play along with their dramas, you’ve said “No” to being controlled by them – If you speak the truth, you’ve said “No” to their lies – If you go No Contact with them you’ve said “No” to their being the centre of the universe – If you get on with your life you’ve said “No” to validating the twisted way they choose to do things. Saying “No” to Narcissists will unleash their anger – they hate... Read More »
Being AUTHENTIC is a continual process of understanding yourself as well as you can and having the courage to allow this to be seen and heard by others. It makes a big difference to relationships because putting on masks, hiding and pretending puts you out of touch with reality, with others and with your own potential.
A counsellor can help you see how to drive the car of your life better – how to use the brake, accelerator, clutch, mirrors and power for a smoother, more comfortable ride….
Being present in your life is about appreciating where you are right now on your journey and not about rushing to get somewhere else or looking back too heavily on where you’ve already been.
A New Year – may it provide you with the opportunity to discover new potential within and the courage to bring it out into the open…
Life is about duality – opposite forces – yin and yang – known and unknown – order and chaos, to name a few…. And one of the biggest challenges and greatest joys comes from learning how to value and include both sides more equally because only then can your life feel more whole, balanced and meaningful.
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” Nelson Mandela
“When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.” Viktor E Frankl
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” Socrates
“Do you have patience to wait until your mud settles, and the water is clear? Can you remain unmoving until the right action arises by itself?” Lao Tzu – Tao Te Ching